To My Baby’s Father:
It’s Father’s Day and that means we’ll be seeing social media feeds like Twitter and Facebook blow up with sentimental posts to all kinds of fathers. We’ve had our discussions about how some people overshare on social media. Our style as both individuals and together as a couple is to keep things a little more confidential. I know you’re a private person (as I am equally, if not more, what I like to call “a selective sharer” as well). But hey, I can write an entire blog post, so I don’t have to limit myself to just 280 characters or a few sentences now.
You and I have come a long way from just being friends when we first met. I never would have guessed that we’d have been through so much together in just a short amount of time. We had fun together, saw eye-to-eye on practically everything, and you understood me like no one else. You listened to me (and I mean really listened to me). You were well traveled just like I was when we met, and I loved that. I also loved your appreciation for family, your morals, your honesty, and the very essence of who you are. And all of that still stands today.
You are such a good man… and before my eyes, the guy I fell in love with became the best husband and father, too.
I could have just said “Happy Father’s Day” but I don’t want it to go unrecognized how important you truly are to our family. You are the other half to this wonderful chaos of a parenting gig we happily were blessed with and signed up to do.
You have stepped up to the plate every opportunity you’ve had.
From the moment we found out we were expecting, you were not only there for me (but before he was even born) being attentive and caring to everything I needed. You were with me doing research and reading books during each passing week as my belly grew, inch by inch.
You were there holding me or rubbing my aching lower back week by week until I fell asleep because I was so uncomfortable.
You were there at week 28 when I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes, where it was constant frustration and a few tears from me while I figured out how to adjust my food choices. And when I had to prick myself 4 times a day, and inject myself once before bed.
And when he was born at week 37, you made me feel safe in the hospital room, despite the medical staff. And you were the one following him around the hospital for all the different newborn checks while I was stuck in bed. When he was in the NICU, you supported both of us while I was a going through the stress of my milk coming in. I will never forget those moments.
The love and support didn’t end after we got home either. The first few weeks after we came home from the hospital were naturally hormonal for me (I mean, I HAD just pushed a tiny human out and then lots of happy crying on my part for a week after). But there was also the no sleep, and just trying to figure out how to care for our baby. From changing diapers and helping around the house while I was recovering, you were doing everything you could for our family.
Thank you for living and breathing this family. Every decision you make and your hard work day in and day out is for us and our future. We were sad when you had to go back to work, but seeing his reaction when you come home is one of my favorite parts of the day. His face could light up a room. Hearing him literally scream “Dada!” with excitement from his high chair when you open the door or sometimes I see his chubby legs try to run toward you and it fills my heart. You give him your share of your personality, as I do mine, and I believe we truly have the perfect baby.
It’s crazy to think about all the research we did and books we read on parenting. But you don’t just learn parenting, you live it. And I love living this with you.
As you know, we have some crazy times ahead of us as he grows more and more as the years go by. But for now, here we are, thirteen months under our belts, with an extremely happy, healthy baby boy! Please know that we are both grateful for you NOW and also will always be with every Father’s Day that passes.
You are a bright light in our life. You remind us daily that chivalry is not dead. You as a father is something to be admired. Thank you for the most important thing – your love. In the words of one of my favorites, Ed Sheeran:
“Should this be the last thing I see
I want you to know it’s enough for me
‘Cause all that you are is all that I’ll ever need”
You are the type of father who is helping shape our son’s life and have a strong impact on how he will be as a man. A man who will respect women, respect elders, care for others unconditionally, and stand up for what’s right. I hope that he reads this someday and knows how blessed he is to be constantly watching and learning from his hero.
We both love you with all our heart and soul! Happy Father’s Day!